Anger can come from internal or external factors.
People have different
dispositions. This means that some
people are easy-going and carefree, while others feel stressed out by little
things. Besides having different
dispositions, people also have different ways of thinking, feeling, and
behaving. Some of these ways have been
learned since they were a baby. They are
learned both individually and culturally.
These internal factors affect how a person deals with anger.
Some internal factors contribute
to anger
1. Poor Thinking. Having bad thoughts and high expectations are
examples of poor thinking. Another
example is talking bad about yourself.
Self-talk is when we talk to ourselves.
Everyone does this and it is very normal. However, it is not normal or healthy to use
negative self-talk. This happens when we
say, “I am so stupid.” “If I did it this
way, that would not have happened.”
“What a jerk I am.” “Who could
ever like me?” “No one cares about
me.” Sometimes we say these things so
much that we start to believe them, even though at the beginning when we
started to say them we knew they were not true.
2. Personal
Appraisal. When something is very
important to us it has a high value or appraisal. Another way to appraise things highly is by
taking too personally what happens to us.
We may feel bad or get angry about a referral we received at school, but
losing sleep because of a poor decision is caused by high appraisal or wanting
to be perfect.
3. Tension. Tension is accumulated stress. When a lot of stress builds up in our life,
we need to find a way to release the stress.
Stress that is not released causes anger.
4. Ill
humor. Being moody, cross, or crabby
gets us in the mood for anger.
What are some external causes of
anger?
Name some internal factors of
anger:
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